Understanding Blame Social Story

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Understanding Blame

Accepting The Blame

Accepting the blame means being honest about what I did wrong.

When I have done something wrong it is important to say what I did. People may be cross with me but I will be OK. If I don't accept the blame for what I did people may get very cross. They will also not trust me to tell the truth.

It is not a nice feeling when I do something wrong. Being blamed feels uncomfortable but I will be OK.

When I have done something wrong I can try and say sorry. This will make people less cross with me.

When I make a mistake or do something that I shouldn't I will try and accept the blame for it. I may feel uncomfortable but I will be OK.

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Understanding Blame

We say that someone is to blame when they do something bad on purpose. Here is an example:

I'm feeling angry and I kick a table knocking things over.

Because I wanted to kick the table I am to blame for anything bad that happens.

Sometimes bad things happen by accident. This means that no-one wanted the bad thing to happen and so no-one is to blame. Here is an example:

I'm running across the playground when someone playing a game runs into me.

Because we both didn't mean it to happen no-one should be blamed for it.

Sometimes people do things that they shouldn't and this leads to an accident. In this case they are partly to blame. Here is an example:

I'm playing with a ball in the house when I accidentally break something.

Because the rule is that I shouldn't play with the ball in the house I have some blame - even though I didn't mean to break anything.

Doing something bad deliberately is never OK. Even if it is an accident I may be partly to blame and I can try hard so it doesn't happen again.

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Use the above examples to help you create your own social story matched to your child's needs. You may want to modify some of the language for very young children but try to avoid losing precise meaning when using more accessible language. Creating social stories with photos or pictures can often help too. Each social story example is also available in a printable format below.

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Accepting The Blame

Accepting The Blame Social Story

A print out version of the Accepting The Blame social story example above.

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Understanding Blame

Understanding Blame

A print out version of the Understanding Blame social story example above.

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You may also be interested in the following pages:

Social Story Examples

Lying Social Story

Telling The Truth Social Story

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