Feeling Angry Social Stories

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sFeeling Angry Social Stories

Three social story examples describing the feeling of anger

Feeling Angry

Feeling angry is when we get so upset or annoyed with somebody or something that we might want to do things that are not nice.

Everybody feels angry sometimes. There are lots of reasons why we might feel angry:

when something we were hoping would happen doesn't happen.
when somebody or something stops us from doing what we wanted to do.
when someone or something hurts us

Feeling angry sometimes is OK. It is a normal part of life and usually lasts only a short time. However, when we are angry we might do bad things that are not OK like:

shout or scream
be rude or swear
try to damage things
try to hurt others or ourselves

When we feel angry we can try to get calm by:

talking to someone about how we feel
having some quiet time on our own
doing another activity we find calming

It is OK to feel angry. But it is not OK to do bad things when we are angry. It is important to try to make ourselves calm and in control.

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I Feel Angry

Feeling angry is when I get so upset or annoyed with somebody or something that I might want to do things that are not nice.

I can feel angry:

when something I hoped would happen doesn't happen
when somebody or something stops me doing what I want to do
when someone or something hurts me

It is OK if I feel angry sometimes. It is a normal part of life and usually lasts only a short time. It is important that I try to control myself when I feel angry so that I don't do bad things like:

shout or scream
be rude or swear
damage things
hurt others or myself

When I feel angry I can try to stay calm by:

talking to an adult
talking to a friend
being alone for a few minutes
doing a calming activity

It is OK to feel angry sometimes. But it is not OK to do bad things because I am angry. I need to try my best to stay calm while I feel angry.

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Seeing Red

'Seeing red' is when we become really angry very quickly.

'Seeing red' is just a way to describe this really sudden anger. People do not actually see the colour red. It is an idiom and comes from bull fighting - a bullfighter would wave a red cloak at a bull to make it angry and charge.

When we 'see red' we get so angry so quickly that we lose control and often can't think properly. We are likely to act without thinking and do things like:

shout or scream
swear or say other unpleasant things
throw, break or damage things
try to hurt someone or ourselves

When we 'see red' it is really difficult to control our feelings of anger. However, it is important that we try our best to stop ourselves from doing things that hurt others or damage things.

When we 'see red' we can try to:

walk away from the situation that is making us angry
tell people - "I am so angry I just need to be alone for a while"
do an activity that helps us feel calmer

'Seeing red' can happen to anyone. It is a very powerful feeling of anger that is hard to control. It is however important to try our best to get calm again.

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Use the examples above to help you create your own social stories matched to your child's needs. You may want to modify some of the language for very young children but try to avoid losing precise meaning when using more accessible language. Creating social stories with photos or picture can often help too. These examples are also available in a printable format below.

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Feeling Angry

Feeling Angry

A print out version of the Feeling Angry social story example above.

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I Feel Angry

I Feel Angry

A print out version of the I Feel Angry social story example above.

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Seeing Red

Feeling Angry

A print out version of the Seeing Red social story example above.

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You may also be interested in the following pages:

Calming Strategies

Emotional Regulation

Social Story Examples

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